Earlier in the year, I read a post from one of my favorite bloggers, Carla from MizFitOnline. For a few weeks after reading her awesome post, I saw tweets and FB updates from her with the phrase “Living my priorities”. I loved what she was doing, but at the time, didn’t really connect it to anything in my life.
Since I started blogging 8 months ago, I’ve been blessed with many wonderful opportunities – FitFluential Ambassador, RRCA certified running coach, soon-to-be pre/post natal exercise specialist (waiting on my certification!), and PowerBar Team Elite Member. While I am loving all of these additions, my life has become 100x more hectic, busy, and crazy!
I am a stay-at-home mom. In order to find the time for all the above opportunities, my priorities started shifting. My focus each day was no longer my son. Instead, it was social media. I started relying heavily on TV, videos, and other mindless outlets to occupy him so I could finish my blog, read other blogs, and stay up-to-date on twitter and facebook.
About a month ago, I had a wakeup call. Through my increasing addiction to social media, it seemed my son was becoming addicted to the TV. It reached a point where he was content to sit in front of the TV for LONG periods of time – and, when I shut the TV and tried to do something with him, he would whine and cry until the TV went back on. It was easier to just turn it back on and avoid the protests.
Other indicators began popping up:
- I was getting irritated and annoyed with my son when he wanted to play or wanted some attention
- Our daily walks / trips to the park were almost non-existent
- My son’s desire to sit and play with his toys had significantly decreased
- He was much more cranky and would cry or get upset if I did anything he didn’t want
I remembered Carla’s post and realized I needed to start Living My Priorities.
What are my priorities?
Does it really matter if I don’t have a new post every single day? Or know everything that is going on in twitterland? Is that what my focus should be each day?
My 17 month old son is a sponge these days. He tries to say and do EVERYTHING that he hears and sees. Just this morning, he started calling my husband “Pau” (he doesn’t say his L’s yet) because I was shouting for him. He wants to learn, be read to, taken on walks, explore. And as a stay-at-home mom, this is my #1 priority. The blogging, coaching, etc can wait until he’s asleep.
I was taking for granted that I am a stay-at-home mom. I’m lucky enough to get to spend each day with my son. I needed to start making the most of each day with him.
It’s been about a month since I wiped the slate clean…
- I no longer turn the TV on for him so I can do things on the computer. If I do put the TV on, I sit with him and interact while the TV is on - so the mindless watching of cartoons has been eliminated.
- I wait until he is napping or asleep for the night to blog, read other blogs, or check twitter/FB. I’m not blogging as much nor am I interacting as much on twitter as I had.
- We are spending more time outside or going on day trips.
And guess what? Within a few days of the “no TV” policy, my husband and I noticed a difference in his behavior. He was more cheerful, pleasant, and patient. He was back to his normal happy little self!!!
Are you a stay-at-home mom? How do you juggle your time with your child(ren) with time spent on the computer?