Baby #2 will be making his/her arrival any day now and I’m excited, ecstatic, and anxious for my son to have a sibling. Both my husband and I come from families of multiple children and we always knew we wanted the same. He will forever have a playmate and friend.
BUT, there is this feeling that I can’t seem to shake. There are times during the day when I look at my son and feel sad. I feel guilty. I feel sorry for him.
While he points to my belly and says “baby”, I know he’s still too young to actually get that there is a real-life baby in there – a little brother or sister that we will be bringing home from the hospital.
He doesn’t realize that sometime in the next couple of weeks, our lives will forever be changed…turned upside down as we welcome a new member to our family. He will no longer have 100% of mommy and daddy’s attention…and our worlds can no longer revolve totally around him.
He has been the center of our lives since day one. These days, when he wakes up, we bring him back into bed with us – the three of us snuggle, hug, and chat before we all make our way downstairs. My husband and I enjoy our morning cup of coffee in the playroom while he cooks us breakfast in his kitchen or plays with his Thomas trains.
Over the last few months, my son seems to have matured from a toddler to a little boy. He’s talking nonstop, he understands everything, the temper tantrums I had previously discussed seem to have vanished… And it makes is so much easier to do more outside of the house now. We go out to eat for lunch. We go to Target and spend hours in the toy aisles. We go food shopping. We run errands. We do things together – just him and I. He’s become my little buddy and I’ve been enjoying every single second with him lately.
My husband and I decided a month or so ago to take advantage of the solo time with him and we’ve been trying to do as much as we can on the weekends – the zoo, aquarium, friends’ homes for playdates…My son and I (and one of my sisters!) are even going to see Sesame Street Live today!
Did you experience similar feelings with subsequent children?