While there are definitely some aspects of life that are more difficult now, I am amazed at how relatively seamless the transition is/was. These are some of the things that I’ve learned the last few weeks:
- Love. I finally understand what my mom used to say to my sisters and I about loving us the same but for different reasons. There’s no way that I could love my two little boys for the same reasons – my oldest is talking and interacting 24/7 while my youngest mostly eats, sleeps, and poops. But I feel like my heart is split equally for them.
- Diapers. A good part of my day is spent changing them. I got used to going through maybe 5-6 diapers/day, so having a newborn who requires many, many more than that is a change for me. And I’m convinced the boys are in cahoots. It seems that they decide to “go” at the same time or while I preoccupied with the other! I received a shipment yesterday – diapers for both boys, wipes, and diaper garbage bags. Can you believe these two boxes will only last a few weeks!?!
- Sleep. I’m amazed at how our bodies adapt to change. I had felt SO tired the last few weeks of pregnancy and that was on 8 hours of sleep a night (+ 30-60 min of napping during the day). Now, I’m getting about 6 hours of (interrupted) sleep and surprisingly feel relatively good for most of the day.
- Food/Drinks I had to eliminate / limit during pregnancy. I forgot how wonderful it is to be able to have an afternoon (or early evening) cup of coffee if I want to! And although I am really not much of a beer drinker, I have been CRAVING one almost every night!
- Older Son’s Reaction. My oldest son has been pretty wonderful with his little brother. He wants to be included in everything that is going on – giving him a bath, changing him, holding him…and will almost never pass him by without leaning in for a kiss! I’m appreciate of all the suggestions that were left when I discussed my guilt with having a second child. Thank you!
- Simultaneous Naps. This has been a most welcome surprise. I was really worried about how I was going to put my older son down for a nap after the little guy was born, but I have gotten pretty good at getting them to coincide. It has allowed me some free time to clean, put my feet up, or get on the treadmill.
- All babies are different. I already see a difference in temperament between my two boys. I’m really not doing too many things differently this time around. And yet my youngest is showing signs of being a better sleeper while my first was much more relaxed and calm when it comes to diapering and bathing.
- My reaction to things. This is probably the area that I have seen the biggest change. With my first son, my husband and I were so cautious about everything – noise in the house, not letting him fuss (at all!), sleep habits, and so on. I’ve quickly learned that I have to let go a lot of things that I used to
stressobsess about. There are times when I have to do something with my oldest and it may require my youngest to fuss for a few minutes in the swing or vibrating chair. There are times he will be woken up from a nap because we have to go someplace – or because the house is loud. It’s made me much more calm and relaxed about things – and has made the first few weeks much less stressful than I expected them to be!
Hope you are having a wonderful HUMP day!!
What changes did you experience with the addition of a second child?
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