Why Not You??

This post initially appeared on Women’s Running. It can be found here.

When my sisters and I were younger, my mom would always ask us Why not you? whenever we began to doubt ourselves.

You want to play (insert sport here)?

You want to go to (insert college here)?

You want to do x, y or z?

Why not you?

She wanted me and my sisters to believe that we could do whatever we wanted and that anything was attainable – as long as we put our mind and hearts into it.

Her thought was that if someone else can do it, why can’t you?

It was about teaching us that nothing should be viewed as impossible.

You can’t control the gifts or natural abilities you were given. BUT, you can control how hard you work for something. You may not pick it up immediately or as fast as others. It may take you longer. It may take more tears and/or sweat. And that’s okay – because the end result is still the same.

(Note: there were plenty of times when we set our sights on things and came up short. My mom would ask us if we tried our best. As long as we did, it was still a success and something to be proud of.)

This has been my approach with everything in my life. From playing basketball throughout my childhood and into college, to applying to and graduating from West Point, to being the Division Targeting Officer in a male-dominated environment during my last deployment to Iraq, to returning to work full time after being out of the workforce for 5+ years. Anytime I begin to question myself or doubt that something is feasible, I hear her in my mind.

If you see something in life that you want, go for it… Why Not You?


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    3 thoughts on “Why Not You??

    1. Such a beautiful post! My mom is so similar! She always says, if they can do it, why not you? At least try before giving up already! While I haven’t put that advice into practice for Years, I’ve recently being trying really hard to push myself out of my comfort zone. I must say, it kinda works :) Totally agree with Laura! Sometimes there is no better time than the time now!!

    2. Great post! In addition to “why not you?”, recently I’ve also embraced the theme “why not now?” Too often we say “Someday I will _____” and all too often “someday” never comes. If it’s important, why not do it now? Change and leaps of faith can be scary but sometimes the best things in life come to those who don’t question whether they’re the “right” person or if it’s the “right” time, and instead make it so.